#10 They Have a Different Religion
Many people have different faiths and they have long, successful and happy marriages. But if you have already experienced conflicts with him because of the different faiths you both hold, then you should not marry. The problems will be magnified when you have children, and if he isn’t willing to compromise, this will be a lifelong problem.
#9 You Aren’t Sure If It’s Love
A surprising number of women get married to someone whom they are not sure they are in love with. If you find yourself pondering whether what you feel is actually love, then that’s a big warning sign. If it’s love, you won’t even have to ask the question.
#8 He Isn’t Working
If your man isn’t working, is rarely working, or is frequently beyond jobs, dumping him ASAP is the best move you can make. Why? It’s possible that he’s just using you to freeload while you are hard at work. It’s not so much that a man needs to take care of you, but he should be able to take care of himself.
#7 He Brings Out the Worst in You
If your boyfriend brings out the worst in you, or you bring out the worst in each other, that’s not a relationship that is built for the long term. You want to be with someone who causes you to rise to the occasion and vice versa.
#6 People Don’t Like Him
While it isn’t advisable to let your friends and family tell you who to date, it’s still concerning if nobody likes your boyfriend. Do people find him difficult? Argumentative? Acerbic? These are signs that he will turn on you once you are married, since he seems to have trouble getting along with everyone else.
#5 He’s Controlling
Sometimes women are attracted to a man who craves control. It may even be attractive to you, since he “loves you so much” he needs to control what you do. However, this is unlikely to be good in the long term. Control puts conditions on a relationship, and if he wants control now, his desire for more power over you will only grow. You are nobody’s property.
#4 He’s a Liar
If you’ve caught your boyfriend in a flurry of lies, or you know he frequently fudges the truth, then he’s not marriage material. There won’t be any trust between you if he’s already shown that nothing he says is likely to be true. This is a recipe for frustration and heartache.
#3 You Disagree About Kids
Do you and your boyfriend disagree about having children? It doesn’t matter which one of you wants kids and which one of you doesn’t – whether or not to have kids is a fundamental thing to discuss in any marriage. Any potential future children deserve two parents who badly wanted a child, not one person who was pushed into it.
#2 He Wants to Change You
Unconditional love means loving unconditionally. If he wants to change you – or make you his Eliza Doolittle – than you should dump him right now. Nothing will ever be good enough and you will be constantly striving to meet a standard that is impossible to reach.
#1 He’s Been Unfaithful
If he has cheated on you even before marriage, don’t marry him. If he was unfaithful to someone else while hooking up with you, you should be even more determined never to marry this guy. The precept “once a cheater, always a cheater” is totally true.